Category Archives: Flow

Opening the door to connectivity

I have spent the vast majority of my life fearing people, and seeing any interaction as an opportunity for me to fail or reveal myself for the good-for-nothing I really am. (I’m sure some of you reading this can identify with that deep-seated fear that sits inside your belly and tells you that you’re a bad person, and that if people only knew the real you they wouldn’t want to be your friend anymore).

I feared judgement, whilst unknowingly being judgemental myself; because finding fault in others was the only way I could feel good about myself. I say ‘unknowingly’ because I genuinely didn’t realise this trait in myself until recent years.

So this idea of connecting with and enjoying the company and companionship of my fellow human beings is a fairly recent discovery for me. And forgive me – I seem to remember that I wrote on this topic not that long ago. But it’s something I continue to ponder, especially as I start to feel more connected with the world around me (my joy is all the greater for having lived in the dark for so many years). We all have days when we feel closed off and don’t especially want to talk to anyone, but on the whole I feel less like I have something to prove and more like a valid piece in the enormous jigsaw puzzle that is our universe.

Connection isn’t something we can learn, but rather something we must learn to feel. Connection exists and is there for us to tap into in almost every moment. Like it or not, we are all connected as part of the shared human experience, and we are all worthy in our own right. I know from personal experience how hard it can be to believe this last point. And if you’re in a place in your life where you doubt your worthiness, then that is absolutely fine. It’s where you’re at right now, and it means that the joy of discovering your place in the world lies ahead, waiting patiently for the time that you feel ready to embrace all that you are.

So, from one piece of a giant jigsaw to another, thanks for being here to read this blog post and I’ll speak to you again soon.

Bye for now x

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Why everyone should watch Kung Fu Panda. No really, it has some great messages…

I don’t know if this is true, but my husband tells me that the Kung Fu Panda films are quite highly regarded in China because they manage to explain in quite simple terms the message behind a lot of ancient Chinese wisdom. Regardless of this, they are amazing films and I wholeheartedly encourage anyone and everyone to watch them at least once.

Some of the messages I picked up by watching the 2nd film yesterday are this:

  1. Inner peace is a journey that we can all make, and it is down to us to make this happen. Some find it through dedicated meditation practice, and others through pain and suffering.
  2. If you are holding on to traumas from your past, the best thing you can do is to let them flow. Feel the emotions you’ve been avoiding, and trust yourself to let them flow through you until you begin to feel peaceful again. Obviously this may need to be done with the help of friends, family and/or a therapist. Whatever works for you – just don’t keep things bottled up. We all deserve better than that.
  3. It’s not what has happened to us in the past that matters; it’s who we choose to become and the life we decide to lead.

I’m not a religious person, but I am becoming increasingly spiritual. Maybe this qualifies as religion, I don’t know. But I definitely believe that our lives have meaning, and that the trick to a happy life is to accept and believe in ourselves. This includes all the rubbish, and all the good bits. I am who I am in part because of everything I’ve experienced, not in spite of it. It has served to point me in the direction of joy and happiness, and in those moments where I am able to sigh deeply and accept absolutely everything about myself and my past, I feel truly content.

So let it flow! Accept who you are and where you have come from. Face up to your emotions and know that (in the wise words of the Kung Fu Panda): That’s the thing about scars, they fade (I’m paraphrasing!).

You are all perfect versions of yourself, so start believing and see what magic begins to unfold…

Bye for now x